Lately, i have this kind of feeling very uncomfortable...ermm i mean with someone that i really love... i am not sure whether this relationship will go further but deep down in my heart i really want it to be last longer...till the end of time.. i just cant have a good communication with him recently...we had been argued with each other few times and it will end with the result i'm saying break up with him...i dont want to..but i think back that i have nothing that is so special to give to him...yeah, i admit that i am not good enough for him..but if you talk about loyalty.. i can assure you that i am good at it..but dont try me..this past few years i had fail in relationship...but i guess it is not me that should be blamed..i try my best and i am not capable enough to be patient anymore...i just burst it out and it ends...
Well, life is really complicated..in one hand, you juggle up with so many things about your job, family, money, etc, and at the other hand you had to handle with your own relationship with someone you love so much... i guess i am not that strong enough to face it...everything is going to become worse and worst...ermm....
"Personal unhappiness is the greatest contributor to relationship problems"
I read through this quote in one of the website when i tried to figure about my relationship problems in the internet... well, i guess this statement is really true... why i can say that because...i think, when you are not happy because you have some problem at your own, that you might think you just need to keep it at your own...it is somehow will affect your relationship...it is exactly something that would affect your mood..your thinking, your behaviour and so on..and your partners may dont know anything..but when you communicate with them you are somehow behave differently..and both of you argue...huhu...i guess that is my opinion..because sometimes i face it too..and figure out that it was my own self having a problem and push it towards my partner..huhu..what a lame explanations i think..haha..
Everytime we argue on something, i start to examining all the things i did for him..and what he did for me... i am not sure whether it was good or not but i think, when we do reflection to our own doing it is sometimes worth cause we may learn from our mistakes... i kept on thinking, all the ways i express my love and how much time and energy we’re putting into the relationship. Then i try to figure out if he is giving an equal amount back. i try not to love more than he loves me because i am really scared and fear that if i love him more than he loves me, i might be played for a fool. huhu...but i guess he loves me more than i do... that's why i stuck on him till now...love ya.
I might need to focus on how i feel when i am loving. The problems within me that makes me uncomfortable...i know that he would loves me in return and it really feels good... whatever problems i would face, i should then let it go and just cherish my love to him..or perhaps share it with him..but will he listen to me?? i dont know..i kept on saying i like to share everything in my life with someone that i really love but then at the end, when i met up with him..there was nothing that i try to share with him.. no ideas.. maybe i was really tired for having journey from Tenom to KK every weekend and that's make me forget to say what i should say to him..huhu... we are really lack of communication... he likes to call me when i'm in Tenom and talks about all the important issues..i wonder why he likes to do that..cause yah, when i am in KK there is nothing important issues he tries to put on...so what's the point?? i am totally confuse... well, i just guess he prefers to be like that..i had no ideas at all...
Sometimes, i tried to figure out whether i am really that sensitive..emotional and so on..cause i kept on feeling unhappy when there is something that i really dont like what he talks to me...i wonder who am i to him... his ways of talking really hurts me sometimes...till i learn to do the same way to him..huhu..jd balas-membalas pula..
In some other times, i guess we have nothing in common... we may not make it through...is it true that in one relationship, a couple should have in common to make the relationship successful?? when i check out some advices from the internet... the rules of relationship tells me that in a relationship there should be a give and take..a marriage is a sacrifice... i guess i should put aside my own interests to make the relationship work. i have to compromise. but then, when there is only one person doing that.. i think i must be crazy...both side should play the roles..
I just need to put aside all my worries and try to work hard on this relationship...there are many things that already in my list-to-do for this year..so hope everything will be go smoothly...i just need to relax my mind... my uncomfortable feeling must be from within me and i should not blame him for all this trouble..i know that he also had played his parts for loving me this way..and to make it a success..i should not judge him for everything that is unnecessary... i should put more trust on him..
If he asks me again How much i love him?..i would say, my love for him cant be measure cause my love for him is deeper than the sea and higher than the mountains...hehe...i wish to have him all the time around me but yeah..if he is not visible to me, his loves will always be with me...
This confusion should end here..cause i have been looking so many advices from the internet and i should learn something... below header really catch my eyes..it makes me wonder...
"10 Golden Rules for staying happy with the One You Love"
1. First and foremost, love each other. Realize how lucky you are to be in love with someone who loves you. Say, “I love you” often and in different ways. Surprise each other with gifts of praise to show your love. Remember that love grows in an atmosphere of freedom and trust, not from restraint and obligation. Do things to keep your love and romance new and alive. Don’t take love for granted, ever. It’s such a blessing.
2. Listen objectively to each other, as you would to a friend. Acceptance is a key to understanding and a buffer for tension and resentment. Don’t take things personally; give each other the right to have different opinions, the right to disagree. You don’t want anyone to control your feelings, so don’t try to own someone else’s, not even the feelings of the one you love.
3. Never stop treating each other like sweethearts. Talk to each other as sweethearts. Do things that sweethearts do. Work together in achieving your goals. Do things just to make the other one feel loved, especially when he or she might be feeling a little down. Take pride in the way you look and act, for yourself and for your partner, but never let external values have more importance than the internal feelings of your heart.
4. Take care of each other. Go to the doctor with each other. Put the other one first, but don’t neglect your own needs either. Do the things that show that you’re interested in your partner’s needs and desires and problems.
5. Look to each other for help. Don’t let your problems or concerns get out of hand and make you go in opposite directions. Be joyful that you’ve each made a commitment to the other…through sickness or health, poverty or wealth, or whatever comes along. You’re in this life together. Be thankful.
6. Talk about things together the way you would talk with a friend. Absolutely refuse to
7. Settle the fact that you’ve made your choice and you’re no longer looking for anyone else. Don’t flirt. Think of the consequences. Don’t even consider it.
8. Be in agreement about how your money is spent. Big items should have the approval of both. Talk about how to manage your finances.
9. When in doubt about your actions, ask yourself how you would want to be treated and then act accordingly. If you’ve argued, never go to sleep without asking the other’s forgiveness, even when you don’t feel like it or want to. Be faithful about this; you won’t be sorry. Do what will make you both the happiest in the long run and be the best for your relationship.
10. Have fun!!
Be positive for all the times and everything will be fine...pray to God the most for guidance in life...He will show you the way and lights...
well, thats all for now... see you on the next updates...
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